What do you think?

Last night at the Unification College the speaker mentioned about love that I thought was very insightful. He said love is not a choice but giving up. He mentioned about choosing a wife is a not only a choice but giving up on other women. He also mentioned about our love for Jesus. Is it based on our choice to love Him or is it giving up on other things for Jesus. As I think about this, I realize that there are many things I need to give up for Jesus.